First of all, I have to apologize for my small hiatus from the blogging world. I’ve been trying to get used to my new laptop (and get all my software installed) while simultaneously trying to convince my three year old that Mommy’s laptop is not for him to poke at and push buttons and play with. Not an easy task. I’m back to only using it when he’s in bed. Maybe eventually he’ll let me type in peace. I’m also doing something I’ve never done before and that is try to write this while I’m drinking. So who knows if it’ll make sense in the end. Or if I’ll be able to put it out there without mistakes. But, here’s hoping.
I’m not completely caught up reading everyone’s blogs, but I’m working at it. Which leads me to my first WTF moment.
What is the point of having “hidden blogs” if they still show up in your reading list? Or am I not doing something right? I can’t get to everyone’s blogs all the time, so I have a few that I put in a hidden list to get to when I have extra time. I opened up my dashboard tonight planning on doing some reading (because if I’m being perfectly honest, I didn’t have the slightest clue what to write about.) And what’s the first post on my list? One from my hidden list! The whole point of putting them there was so I wouldn’t have to sort through the ones I want to read right away and the ones that can wait awhile. This is fucking up my system!
I’m also pissed off at Hubby. Now, I’ll be the first to admit that I am a bit of a firecracker. Or, as we call it in our house, a pistolie. (It started off as a pistol and evolved from there. My husband has a funny habit of putting his own spin on words. Christ, even when I’m pissed at him, I can’t help but talk about what I like about him!) But anyway, calling myself a firecracker is putting it nicely. I can be downright bitchy. So maybe I’m overreacting. Or maybe I just expect too much.
Last night I had a decent sized paragraph written about what happened, but the light of day has brought some reason and sanity back to me. I’m still pissed, but I’m not really a believer in airing dirty laundry and all that. I’ll just say that marriage is not always sunshine and roses, but sometimes it’s better to forget it and move on. Sometimes, it’s not worth arguing over. I know I’m right about the issue, but there is no convincing him that he’s wrong. So, I’m dropping it (although it would feel really good to hear him say he’s sorry and that he knows he did the wrong thing.) We’re both too damn stubborn though and I hate fighting fights I know I can’t win.
So, first of all, I didn't know you could have "hidden" blogs or sort your blog list or whatever. Interesting. I may have to look into that.
ReplyDeleteAnd yes, I am in TOTAL agreement with your statement that some things are not worth arguing over. My hubby though, is a firm believer in let's talk about EVERYTHING and I'm more the let me be pissed and get over and we can just move on like nothing happened person. lol.
By hidden blogs, do you mean the ones that you follow anonymously?
ReplyDeleteKnowing a little about the situation with Husband, I have to say that you are entirely right and within your bounds to expect an apology. However, I also know that we pick our battles, and if this is one that you would rather drop, then I support you fully, my adorable rockstar.~
Yay for your new laptop! Next step: evil genius desk.
ReplyDeleteI don't know how the hidden blogs thing works. Honestly, I didn't know there was a hidden blog option, but now I'm going to try it out to see if it works because there are some blogs that I like to read but I never comment on them, so reading this right when they go up isn't a priority.
I, too, don't like to air out the dirty laundry when I'm angry with Padawan. I'm sure Hubby appreciates your discretion. Sleeping on it is always a good thing. Isn't there some sort of married rule that you never go to bed angry at each other or some such thing?
"....I hate fighting fights I know I can’t win."
ReplyDeleteUm, that sounds like you just wanna fight for fighting sake. I will tell you this much: If you feel you've been wronged, bring it up IMMEDIATELY. Women have this ability to hold all these things inside their minds, let it all build up, then explode after about a 2 month period, bringing up every little detail that their man has screwed up over that past two months.
Talk to him, tell him how it makes you feel, and sometimes, agree to disagree on occasion. You don't have to see EVERYTHING the same way all the time. But don't hold it in and bring it up later. That makes us men feel like you're keeping score.
Hidden blogs are either ones you follow annomously (like I follow myself annon. in case blogger screws up and I loose all my content, but I don't want to show up in my followers list. I also do this so I know how it shows up in dashboard... I'm weird like that) OR a hidden blog could be one that you've hidden your content from, but I'm not exactly sure what is involved in that.
ReplyDeleteHonestly, I never understood the point of following annon... I want to know when people are stalking me... it makes it less creepy.
As for the hubby... I got nothing. Almost Hubs was here all week sick and with his back thrown out. As soon as he was feeling better, he went "home" to his house. WTF?
I did not know you could hide a blog.
ReplyDeleteI didn't know you could hide blogs either. Yea for new laptops though!
ReplyDeleteFights you can't win even though you know you're right are the most infuriating, however, peace is usually much more enjoyable.
Hannah, apparently you are ahead of most of us in the hidden blog thing. We are clueless.
ReplyDeleteI also do not have the stamina for fighting. It takes a lot of work. Sometimes it is better for me to let it go for a day or two and then try to explain why I was upset once the dust has settled.
Very true, marriage is not all sunshine and roses. Hope you start feeling better. Please don't bite my head off for this comment. :D
ReplyDeleteMegan, if you click on a blog name and the posts for just that blog come up, on the upper right hand side there is a link that says something about add to hide list. I don't think I have the phrase quite right, but it's something like that. Apparently, it doesn't do what I thought it would. I generally like to talk things out too, but sometimes I know I won't get anywhere so I just have to get over it.
ReplyDeleteKat, it's not one I follow anonymously. I don't have any like that. (I don't think.) And he knows what I think about the whole situation and that I wasn't happy about it. That's about all I can do about it now. Just move on. But thanks again for listening to me vent Saturday night! *hugs*
Chanel, I do try to stick to that never go to bed angry thing, but sometimes it's hard. But one thing I never do is go to bed without a kiss and telling him I love him. Even when I am mad at him. :)
ET, you're exactly right about talking about it and not bringing it up way after the fact. I really do try to do that. I don't like fighting just for fighting though. I hate fighting with him. And we don't really fight, we argue. But I don't like arguing anything if I don't think maybe I'll be able to get the person to see my point of view. My husband doesn't always see things my way (which is fine as long as we agree on the major things) and I already knew this was going to be one of those times he wouldn't see my side. We did talk and he knows how I feel. And we're both past it now.
Julianna, I don't follow any anonymously and I haven't hidden my blog from anyone. I don't know what the link that I saw was supposed to do, but it obviously wasn't what I thought! Poor Almost Hubs, for being sick. Did the race on Sunday help make him feel better? Or was it just your excellent nursing skills?
OT, I guess maybe you can't. Bummer.
Ms Jenna, yes, peace in the house is much more enjoyable. I could definitely live without the arguing.
Onion, apparently my idea of the hidden blog was flawed. I still haven't figured out what the hidden list is supposed to do. I'm still trying though. And yes, taking some time to cool off before discussing the situation is usually always better (at least for me.) That way I don't say something I'd regret in the heat of the moment.
Paul, thank you. I am feeling more calm about things. And no, I won't bite your head off for any reason.